- A relative was given three weeks to live by doctors because of his fast growing cancer, but he was convinced he'd live to see his daughter's graduation. He did - ten years later!
- A friend of a friend went to a psychic even though she didn't really believe in them, and he told her she should go to the doctor. She did, they found a lump and removed it, and now she's okay!
- A boss was told they'd never walk again after a car accident, and now they run marathons!
Instead I mumbled to myself about anecdotes and data. Just loud enough for my professor to hear me and ask me to speak up. I took a breath, squared my shoulders, and said that the anecdotes we just shared are very interesting, but they're not data. Repeated studies have explained some of them, and hopefully further ones will explain the others so we can know how someone beats back deadly diseases so we can help others do the same. My professor thanked me for voicing my "scientific viewpoint".
The class was silent.
My heart was beating fast. I'm a killjoy.
And then one of my classmates talked about how we can't discount the client's viewpoint, so if they say they see a bird with the face of their dead mother, we need to believe them and not tell them they're wrong.
I said of course, I'm not talking about disrespecting clients. I would never do that.
The class moved on to more note taking.
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This often happens: a class is talking about data practice or policy, anecdotes get shared, someone mentions data vs anecdotes, and another person reminds them not to disrespect clients. It's so out of left field for me, but it's a pattern and I'm trying to understand it. Was my classmate saying she felt I was disrespecting her but filtering it through the less confrontational lens of clients? Does she think I'm unable to compartmentalize? Does a social worker caring about data in a data context mean others feel they're unfit to work in the field? I am defensive about this? The answer to the last question is yes.
Every time I mention data, a classmate jokes about how I'm going to be getting a PhD in a few years. When I took research most of my classmates were pretty vocal about how they felt they didn't need to do it. Should research replace empathy and personal skills with clients? Of course not. They should be used in tandem, combined to help clinicians figure out what might best serve the client, and then to lay those choices out in front of the client and let them decide. I use myself and my ability to connect with clients constantly - I have to as I work largely with mandated teens - but that doesn'y mean that I check my knowledge at the door. And I don't think my classmates do either.
So how do I talk with them about that?